A Woman’s Point of View
By Carma Grimes ● Songwriter/Singer ● Delta, CO

   Carma Grimes
Delta, CO


If you are fulfilling 
the will of God 
in your life, don't fret 
if you come to a "Red Sea" 
or a Valley 
that seems to be "the 
Valley of the Shadow 
of Death."
If HE leads you TO IT, 
HE'LL lead you 
THROUGH IT!

     A few days ago, I listened to a beautiful song written back in the 1950's. Maybe you too remember this lovely melody and lyrics written by Buddy Holly:

 Just you know why... why you and I... will by and by... know true love ways.                                  

Sometimes we'll sigh... sometimes we'll cry...

And we'll know why... just you and I... know true love ways.                                                      

Throughout the days... our true love ways...                                                                                                          

Will bring us joys to share... with those who really care.                                                                      

Sometimes we'll sigh... sometimes we'll cry...                                                                                          

And we'll know why... just you and I... know true love ways.

Deep inside, everyone longs for TRUE LOVE WAYS! The desire has been placed inside of us by our Creator, and the longing is not fully satisfied until we encounter TRUE LOVE. Only after receiving and experiencing TRUE LOVE can we then give TRUE LOVE to others! 

 "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

 "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." 
(1 John 4:8)

Hollywood's kind of love requires beauty, talent, wealth, a certain size, a perfect personality, no flaws... then and only then, do you deserve LOVE. Their movies have preached this message over and over, and all too often it has been believed, especially by the young. Self hatred develops if an individual buys into this propaganda. Too many perceive they are not worthy of Love.

Without TRUE LOVE (the agape Love of God) we will always be picking at ourselves and others. There's no way to contain, experience, understand or give... "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE" apart from the source of TRUE LOVE.

"But love [agape] your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked." (Luke 6:35)

"For by these He has granted to us His precious and magnificent promises, so that by them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world by lust." 
(2 Peter 1:4)

"Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?" And He said to him, "'YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.' This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, 'YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.' On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets."
(Matthew 22:36-40)

A wrong concept or kind of love motivates one to achieve at any cost, and to satisfy self-centered desires. This carnal love can only bring inside and outside pressures and the mind will experience constant turmoil.

The Bible warns us about loving the wrong things:

"For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs." (1 Timothy 6:10)         

"People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, (2 Timothy 3:2) treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God" (2 Timothy 3:4)                                 

"Rather he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined." 
(Titus 1:8)                                                                             

"Keep on loving each other as brothers." (Hebrews 13:1)

"Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart." (1 Peter 1:22)                   

"Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble." 
(1 Peter 3:8)                                                                    

"If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them." (Luke 6:32)

"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." 
(John 13:34)                                                                                     

"By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." (John 13:35)

I don't know if the following story is true or not but the moral point it makes is valuable. It certainly points out how frail human love is when conditions change. The story goes like this:

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she is blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He’s always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she can see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, “Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?” The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him.

Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying. “Just take good care of my eyes, dear.”

TRUE LOVE is the only kind of love that makes life worth living. If you've never experienced God's love, I strongly encourage you to seek to know your Heavenly Father in a personal way. He is as close as a prayer, or time of meditation in His Word. 

Knowing TRUE LOVE will influence you to discontinue wrong habits, see life with new eyesight, and love others unconditionally. Since it is so easy to fall into wrong kinds of love and a selfish way of thinking, maybe reading through this list will be helpful:

1. Today before you think of saying an unkind word – Think of someone who can’t speak. 

2. Before you complain about the taste of your food – Think of someone who has absolutely nothing to eat.

3. Before you complain about your husband or wife – Think of someone who’s crying for a companion.

4. Today before you complain about life – Think of someone who went too early to heaven/hell.

5. Before you complain about your children – Think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

6. Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep – Think of the people who are living in the streets.

7. Before whining about the distance you drive – Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

8. When you are tired of your job and find yourself complaining – Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

9. Before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another – Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

10. When depressing thoughts try to get you down – Put a smile on your face and remind yourself that you’re still alive and well able, with the help of God, to accomplish something great with your remaining days. Then think of the many ways you can be a blessing to someone else.

It's time for true Christians to show the world TRUE LOVE WAYS!

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT: Life is only worth living when you have met "LOVE" face to face. Love will grow if you give it away!

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